When We Were Bad The Rubin family everybody agrees seems doomed to happiness Claudia Rubin is in her heyday Wife mother rabbi and sometime moral voice of the nation everyone wants to be with her at her older son

  • Title: When We Were Bad
  • Author: Charlotte Mendelson
  • ISBN: 9780330449298
  • Page: 229
  • Format: Hardcover
  • The Rubin family, everybody agrees, seems doomed to happiness Claudia Rubin is in her heyday Wife, mother, rabbi and sometime moral voice of the nation, everyone wants to be with her at her older son s glorious February wedding Until Leo becomes a bolter and the heyday of the Rubin family begins to unravel As intelligent as it is funny A beautifully observed li The Rubin family, everybody agrees, seems doomed to happiness Claudia Rubin is in her heyday Wife, mother, rabbi and sometime moral voice of the nation, everyone wants to be with her at her older son s glorious February wedding Until Leo becomes a bolter and the heyday of the Rubin family begins to unravel As intelligent as it is funny A beautifully observed literary comedy as well as a painfully accurate description of one big old family mess Observer Fast paced and engaging Brilliant, touching and true Naomi Alderman, Financial Times Absolutely spellbinding, so funny, so moving, so totally believable Jacqueline Wilson Intelligent and witty The Rubin family may be a singular one but the delights and the difficulties its members have with sex and spirituality, food and domesticity, expectation and achievement, will have a universal appeal Sunday Telegraph Funny and emotionally true, this is a comedy with the warmest of hearts and the most deliciously subversive of agendas Book of the Month, Marie Claire When We Were Bad is a warm, poignant and true portrayal of a London family in crisis, in love, in denial and ultimately in luck.

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    1. The book deals with one of my favorite subject matters the issue of duty versus individual desire. Since I consider my value system to be heavily influenced by both I love books which places one value against the other. I actually really love this book because of the lessons of how one has to be an individual first before one can be responsible for others and equally important is letting go of control of others peoples lives and concentrate only on things that one can control.I think one of Mend [...]

    2. I really enjoyed this. A rambling kind of family saga in some ways, but the sort that cover a lot of family in a short space of time rather than sort that transcend generations. The central characters are the members of a London Jewish family - Claudia, successful mother, and Norman, unsucessful father, and their four grown up children (for various values of "grown up").I found the characters all pretty believable, often they are "larger than life" in the way that real people really are. What I [...]

    3. The story of Claudia, a famous English rabbi and powerful matriarch, the husband living in her shadow, and their four children. Think The Corrections meets Philip Roth. Kind of. Quite frankly, I wasn't expecting to like this book too much -- the only reason I picked it up was that it was sitting on my office bookshelf and I had forgotten to bring the other book I was reading. As I'm terrified of being caught on public transportation with nothing to read, I grabbed this, mostly because it looked [...]

    4. Oh my. Charlotte Mendelson, you sly one, you. Who knew that the erstwhile Booker nominee had written a novel that would totally consume me in the reckless manner that it did? The fact that I could barely stand to set it down for a minute only added to the overall satisfaction of a tightly written narrative, filled with witty observations and characters that you come to care about even though they have few redeeming characteristics. Claudia Rubin is at the height of her powers: wife, mother, rabb [...]

    5. Somehow I think if I was of Jewish descent I would have gotten this book better I just felt like i was out of the loop on some of the antics of what was going on - or they would have made more sense as to the intensity they were given. I did get the family dynamics though - that pretty much translates across the board - in all races and religions. Let's put 'FUN' back in dysFUNctional!!!! Although they did seem alittle more screwed up than most or maybe just in relation to my particular family a [...]

    6. On paper (which it is) this novel should have been the ideal read for me: the story of the collapsing family of a famous woman rabbi living in Hampstead. Unfortunately, and with apologies to the kind lady who gave me my copy, it was one of those books I couldn't pick up again when I'd put them down. The characters are mostly sketchy, the plot is non-existent (not that this would normally bother me but without decent characters you at least want a good plot) and it took me until two thirds of the [...]

    7. OK. I found out about this book on AfterEllen. It was of interest to me because the author, Charlotte Mendelsohn is a publishing editor at a London-based publishing house. I enjoyed the book, it was entertaining. What I liked most was the subject of the importance of pursuing our own happiness by putting our needs first rather than leading lives we think our father/mother/siblings want or we think want us to have.

    8. Although I grew to like the book some by the end, it was tough for me to stick with. Usually I love stories set in London, and I like a wacky Jewish family as much as the next guy but somehow each member of this one was so entirely out-of-control it made me feel anxious. And I didn't like picturing their house, it made me feel grubby. So overall this story kind of made me queasy and sad.

    9. OK, I can see if I have to struggle with a political science book for a degree credit, but this? 3 chapters in and I still have no idea who the players are or what's going on. Give me a break!

    10. Hugely enjoyable account of the trials and tribulations of Jewish family based in Camden, north London. Well written, thoughtful, funny and sad. Good stuff.

    11. I'm finding it really hard to review this one. I feel like there's a lot to say, but I can't quite find the words.When We Were Bad focuses on the Rubin family, who to everyone outside the family, appears perfect. However our four main characters; Claudia, Leo, Frances and Norman are each hiding their own secrets and trying to break free from the ties that bind them.Unfortunately I really struggled with the book, despite enjoying it immensely as I found it extremely hard to warm to any of the cha [...]

    12. Like the diner who wants to like brussels sprouts but just can’t quite do it, I wanted to give this book four stars, but its flaws held it at 3 (when are we getting those half stars, Otis?)The strength of Charlotte Mendelson’s writing is evident. She started out giving me a family whose members I universally disliked. But as they each harbored and nurtured their secrets, they became much more interesting, if not always more endearing, and soon, everything was hurtling toward what promised to [...]

    13. What Charlotte Mendelson achieves with her great skill of writing, she loses through her storytelling. I struggled with When We Were Bad to begin with, because I just found it so confusing. With so many different characters being initially thrown at you, I had a real difficulty in remembering who was who. As soon as I was around 100 pages in, I had managed to achieve a firm grasp over who all the characters were, but introducing so many right from the beginning made it difficult for me to divulg [...]

    14. I’ve got to say that I found the first part of this fiction really slow and plodding but after a certain point, although the action did not necessarily pick up, I felt really on-side with the characters so I began to enjoy it a whole lot more.The book depicts a typical kitchen-sink family drama that evolves over time exposing the characters over the run of the novel with no particular dramatic surge. At first I found these characters pretty humdrum in the milieu of their daily lives but, after [...]

    15. When We Were Bad, by Charlotte Mendelson is a literary work of a family in crisis. It is set in England and is a novel that portrays the family unit through an ensemble of characters.The central character and family matriarch is Claudia Rubin, an intelligent rabbi in an age when female rabbis were not the norm in English Jewish circles. Not only is she a rabbi, but she is also a well-known writer. She is manipulative, forceful, attractive, and knows how to put on superficial faces when necessary [...]

    16. "When We Were Bad" seems like a great novel born a little too prematurely. The story follows a seemingly tight-knit London Jewish family as the cracks in their happiness are uncovered one after another. The older children aren't all that happy in their relationships, the youngest has some sort of hinted problem, and the parents are keeping a host of secrets from the whole family. It's full of deceptions that range from the small but unforgivable (unable to find the proper ingredients, Frances us [...]

    17. This novel, though filled with a great deal of dry humor, is actually more of a picture of melancholy and lost opportunity than anything else. A lot of the book deals with the Jewish faith and how it has affected the characters’ perceptions of duty and happiness, but I think by the end, the despair and feelings of responsibility captured are so universal that it could have been about nearly any religion, or even none at all, because the family dynamics supersede the religious elements. Watchin [...]

    18. I started expecting it to be mediocre and thats how I felt it was when I had finished. The first half of the book is wry but slightly boring and the second half left me not really liking the characters but interested nonetheless. There was a wealth of Jewish knowledge, traditions and terminology that I somehow never learned at school which says a lot about schools in this country really. Why, at my church of england school did we study so much Christianity that we already knew about, and yet lea [...]

    19. I actually ran across this book on afterellen (I go there to browse their books section, often handy and interesting), so I knew there would be some sort of lesbian subtext/content in it. Her writing reminds me of Zadie Smith, but I like it a lot more. This is a very literary book (yes, I do read literary fiction :P). It also reminds me of Anne Enright's writing in that it's a very sardonic look at family life. None of the Rubin clan is perfect and they are not always likable or pleasant. There [...]

    20. Y'know I don't think I've ever had this much fun watching a family implode.It's the tale of the Rubin family. The Rubin family's life circles around their mother's expectations. Claudia Rubin is a respected member of the community, a Rabbi, über-mother par excellence. She writes books, goes on TV and the radio and generally seems to be respected and looked to as a moral compass.Her husband, Norman, is a writer himself, but clearly stands in his wife's shadow, their four grown-up children seem t [...]

    21. A great read. Mendelson deftly creates a zany family replete with mild dysfunction - Rabbi and matriarch to all, Claudia, is at the helm, hung up on appearances and her own family values; the kids each have their own issues (one being they are all adults yet act like kids) and at times this book was just hysterical.Deduction of stars - often Mendelson was very unclear - the dialog or the overall narrative left pieces out and we were somehow supposed to follow anyway - also certain threads didn't [...]

    22. I struggled at first to get into this book. So many characters, all equally important as the story unfolds. All so flawed. All so Jewish. That isn’t a criticism. Just an observation that understanding the Rubin family (and all the characters are family members) means getting to grips a bit with what it means to be Jewish too.I persisted. It was worth it.The lives of every family member begin to unravel as son Leo’s life very publicly does, the day he leaves his wife-to-be some 4 minutes befo [...]

    23. It's quite hard to know quite what to say about this book as there were so many different storylines and many of them were never resolved, but just left hanging at the end (what was the outcome of Norman's secret book?). I couldn't really warm to any of the characters, wanting to throttle Frances at times; and I didn't think the younger two children really added anything to the story. It almost felt like the author wanted to write a book about aspects of the Jewish faith, but then had to find a [...]

    24. Rabbi Claudia Rubin is looking forward to her next book being published as well as her oldest son's wedding. But when he chooses another path, he sets off a chain event which leads to Claudia's life rapidly unravelling.Far from a perfect family which balances the artistic with the dutiful, she has to face the fact her children are deeply flawed and are all in need of her help, support, love and understanding. But can she focus on them and finally give her husband the support and recognition he n [...]

    25. DNF. I didn't finish this one because a few chapters in I got bogged down and realized I didn't like any of the characters and didn't care what happened to them. The mother was a controlling harpy who kept her adult children bound to her with love, fear and, if necessary, manipulation. The kids were all pathetic and wierd. I finally skipped to the last couple of chapters and read them but it doesn't matter. I think that in my version of the story the entire family, except for the young children, [...]

    26. Read this for my book group; it was chosen because it was one of several recommended by our independent women's bookstore. Fascinating, funny, slightly unbelievable but none the worse for that. A slightly irritating style (haven't read any of her other books so don't know if this is habitual) where each event seems to be announced by "here is "x" doing "y". But again, it doesn't overwhelm. Not all characters are as clearly drawn as some; but the most sympathetic, who are possibly also ironically [...]

    27. I admired the writer's ability to capture the life that was going on beneath the surface of her characters and the lack of honesty that can prevail in families, not matter what their cultural context. The characters, however, teetered universally on the brink of caricature and I simply couldn't care about them enough to bother about the various situations their compliance or duplicity got them into. I was particularly disappointed by the writer's failure to explore and resolve some of the more i [...]

    28. A tale of a family whose members, despite themselves, are devoted to each other. Written with a mixture of love of Jewishness and self-loathing. With a mixture of awe for a powerful matriarch and at the same time, resentment of the need to be cared for by her. A motley crew of unevolved humans as characters, just a wee bit stereotyped beyond reality. If I wasn't so down on mere mortals who lie, cheat, withhold truth and betray, I might have felt some sympathy toward them. Yet, understanding, emp [...]

    29. Somewhat of a soap-ish novel, this is about a family that is struggling to keep everyone together. There are love stories, family angst, affairs, and other drama-filled tales to be told. While a characters such as Claudia, Leo, and Frances are interesting, you just don't seem to care much about the others. And during a lot of the novel, you get frustrated reading because the characters are so selfish.An interesting book with potential, but it gets caught too much up in causing a "whoa" moment th [...]

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